On Kate Spade... what we need to talk about while leaving a little sparkle wherever we go

When I was 13 years old my Mom, after much begging and pleading and my promises of good grades, clean rooms, walked dogs etc purchased me my first "real" bag. It was brown with pink and white polka dots, purchased from the "big girl" counter at Nordstrom - and it was Kate Spade. 

I know I am not the only woman in her early 30's to have this experience. The iconic brand is one I've carried throughout my life, I've carried her bags to the first day of high school, graduations, birthdays, funerals, galas and to the movies. I've purchased them as gifts to make someone smile. The quirky and sparkly brand reflected its creator, the true Kate Spade. When I heard of her suicide this morning, it hit me pretty hard. Here was someone I had never met who apparently "had it all" - money, success, a family yet that wasn't enough. She was fighting a battle none of us knew about.

I have to hope that she knew of the impact the sayings, the glitter, the "pop - fizz- clink" of it all had on a generation of women. Regardless of your opinion of the styles, you have to admit and respect the impact she has had. She personally wore big glasses, bright colors and had a pretty badass attitude (at least from the press and media I have seen of her over the years) - something that I always loved about her. 

While today I carried a Louis Vuitton neverfull to work, (also a very significant bag in my life) I can't help but think back to that brown polka dot bag that started it all for me. I want to thank Kate for always inspiring women to "leave a little sparkle" where ever they go - and hope that her death can somehow be turned into a teachable and inspiring moment for our generation

WE HAVE TO TALK ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH.- We have to learn to be kinder to each other. We have to learn to support each other, not just when things are covered in glitter, but when they are dark and dirty and uncomfortable. Stop the glamor of being too busy or too important for someone. Reach out one extra time, ask how someone is really doing, and maybe we can make a little difference - while leaving a little sparkle where ever we go. 

If you are reading this, and you ever need someone to talk to - ever- please do not hesitate to reach out to me. I always want this to be a safe space for anyone who needs it.

 If you or anyone you know needs someone to talk to, please contact The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline via web: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or call them at 1-800-273-8255 – it is 100% free and available 24 hours a day 365 days a year.

Rest peacefully, Kate.