On Kate Spade... what we need to talk about while leaving a little sparkle wherever we go

When I was 13 years old my Mom, after much begging and pleading and my promises of good grades, clean rooms, walked dogs etc purchased me my first "real" bag. It was brown with pink and white polka dots, purchased from the "big girl" counter at Nordstrom - and it was Kate Spade. 

I know I am not the only woman in her early 30's to have this experience. The iconic brand is one I've carried throughout my life, I've carried her bags to the first day of high school, graduations, birthdays, funerals, galas and to the movies. I've purchased them as gifts to make someone smile. The quirky and sparkly brand reflected its creator, the true Kate Spade. When I heard of her suicide this morning, it hit me pretty hard. Here was someone I had never met who apparently "had it all" - money, success, a family yet that wasn't enough. She was fighting a battle none of us knew about.

I have to hope that she knew of the impact the sayings, the glitter, the "pop - fizz- clink" of it all had on a generation of women. Regardless of your opinion of the styles, you have to admit and respect the impact she has had. She personally wore big glasses, bright colors and had a pretty badass attitude (at least from the press and media I have seen of her over the years) - something that I always loved about her. 

While today I carried a Louis Vuitton neverfull to work, (also a very significant bag in my life) I can't help but think back to that brown polka dot bag that started it all for me. I want to thank Kate for always inspiring women to "leave a little sparkle" where ever they go - and hope that her death can somehow be turned into a teachable and inspiring moment for our generation

WE HAVE TO TALK ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH.- We have to learn to be kinder to each other. We have to learn to support each other, not just when things are covered in glitter, but when they are dark and dirty and uncomfortable. Stop the glamor of being too busy or too important for someone. Reach out one extra time, ask how someone is really doing, and maybe we can make a little difference - while leaving a little sparkle where ever we go. 

If you are reading this, and you ever need someone to talk to - ever- please do not hesitate to reach out to me. I always want this to be a safe space for anyone who needs it.

 If you or anyone you know needs someone to talk to, please contact The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline via web: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or call them at 1-800-273-8255 – it is 100% free and available 24 hours a day 365 days a year.

Rest peacefully, Kate. 

34509851_10216558435938108_5663717182178066432_n.jpg

 

 

XOXO | SLL

Farmers Market Finds with Gozon Boutique!

There is no question that I am addicted to online shopping (specifically women’s trendy clothes via my favorite online boutique gozon.com), maxi dresses (even better if they have pockets) farmers markets and easy weekends.  So imagine my delight in sharing ALL FOUR with you!

(just click this photo to shop this look!)

(just click this photo to shop this look!)

If you have no idea what I am talking about or don’t follow me on Instagram (hey! Why don’t you?) I’ve partnered with Gozon.com to bring you a few of my favorite pieces from their newest release, as well as walk you through my farmer’s market process!  And let me tell you… it’s a process.

There are a few things you MUST have ready.

1.       Shopping tote – you don’t want to be the one asking for a plastic bag (I promise)

2.       Sunglasses – its bright out there!

3.       Sunhat – protect that skin girl! 

4.       Comfy yet cute clothes for walking around in (and snapping that cute insta!)

A few other things before you head out… for sure bring cash. You can always get a better deal and while most merchants take cards, some don’t.  I personally love supporting local businesses which is one of the reasons I try to get as much as I can at the farmers market. I love getting fresh flowers, my produce and even some of my household goods knowing it's supporting someone locally. This is the same reason I love supporting Gozon, they are headquartered right here in Southern California. In addition to their offices being here, they work closely with other LOCAL business to get the newest styles.

(just click this photo to shop this look!)

(just click this photo to shop this look!)

My next tip is going EARLY! I love being the one of the first people there in the mornings. It’s so peaceful and relaxing. I also like going before the day heats up, like last week when this black maxi dress was the perfect choice, it was so hot! This dress is so versatile you could really wear it anywhere. It’s an amazing quality of soft cotton, has pockets (have I said how much I love dresses with pockets?!?) and is long enough for my tallness. I love how all of their pieces are true to size.  You don’t have to order a medium in one thing and an XL in another. I’ve been really impressed with the affordability of each item as well.

So once you’ve gotten there early, in your cute maxi dress and hit the ATM… what’s next?

I like to go in a pretty systematic order so that things in my bag don’t get all smushed! I told you this was a process! First I start with the more hearty produce, the stuff I want at the bottom of my bag. I’ve also been known to grab some fresh pizza dough or cheeses at the start. So once I have my onions, zucchini and stuff like that I head to the more delicate things. I ALWAYS get tomatoes and berries when they are in season. On my way out of the market I stop to get fresh flowers, usually from the same vendor. I love having flowers in my home as much as possible – they cheer me up daily.

Once I finish up at the market I generally head home, drop off the perishables and pick up my husband for some brunch. Last weekend I added in a quick change to this AMAZING striped dress because I wasn’t sure if we’d have time to come back home before heading to a friend’s BBQ. This dress will be a staple for me this summer as its super easy to dress up or down. Add on a statement necklace for date night with some wedges – or with a cute pair of sandals for a BBQ like I did!

(just click this photo to shop this look!)

(just click this photo to shop this look!)

(just click this photo to shop this look!)

(just click this photo to shop this look!)

Be sure to check out their website for all of your online shopping needs (I would sign up for their newsletter too –  you’ll want to be the first to know when new styles are released! I seriously have been so happy with every one of my orders, and lucky for you they’ve provided me with a coupon code for all my followers! Just enter BUBBLESANDBONES15 at check out.

XOXO | SLL

 

 

 

 

This post was sponsored by gozon.com, all opinions are completely my own based on my experience. This post contains affiliate links. 

 

trust your neighbors, but brand your cattle...

Have you ever heard the phrase "trust your neighbor, but brand your cattle"?

No? Well, now you have! 

I saw this pop up on a t-shirt as one of those facebook ads and it really got me thinking about what is currently going on in my life, this blog and what I want everything to be moving forward. I know, inspiration comes from the weirdest places right?

I started this blog as a platform to share my tips, tricks, and ideas with a larger audience. I was constantly being asked these kinds of things, so I thought why not share them all in one spot. Don't get me wrong, that's what I've been doing and what I will continue to do...but... I lost sight of what I wanted this to be, and who I am. 

So where does the stolen cattle part come in?

You see, I got wrapped up in an end goal and forgot to enjoy the process. I thought I needed experts and gurus and people with many more followers to tell me what to do. I trusted many of the wrong people, who eventually stole my cattle... not following?

I started to listen to people who I thought were my friends/collaborators/contributors (bad neighbors) and the ended up doing me wrong (stealing my cattle), instead of trusting my gut. My instinct was that I was on a good path and that I just needed to stay my course. But I totally forgot to listen to her, and instead was looking for greener pastures. (ok I promise to cut down on the cow references soon...)

The past few months you may or may not have noticed has had some different types of content from me, some I love (been pinching myself with some of the brands I have been able to work with!) and some I cringe at.  I've been spending a ton of time helping others build their brands, Instagrams, blogs etc for free- because I thought they would do the same. They didn't, nor ever had plans to. I was focusing on promoting other people instead of myself, I thought if I do this for them, they will surely do this for me if/when I need them? Wrong. 

Meanwhile, my super genuine and awesome friends (good neighbors)and collaborators were feeling left out and isolated from me - this I am very sorry for. I was putting my eggs in the wrong basket (cows in the wrong herd?... sorry, sorry...)

Don't worry - I eventually pulled my head out of my ass got my cows back and am feeling more inspired than ever! Notice how you've had a fresh blog 3 days in a row now? 

Dom helped me completely redesign our guest room into the new Bubble & Bones headquarters (ironically enough I type this from my new desk which sits right on top of a beautiful cowhide rug). I have a place to write and create content that feels inspiring and right, something I am very grateful for. Full details on the new space coming soon! 

I hope this blog inspires some of you to trust your gut, stay your course. You're doing awesome. 

 

XOXO | SLL 

Sunday blues & panic attacks.

Hello gorgeous friends! 

I hope you all had a most fabulous Sunday and are feeling rested and recharged for the week! But chances are you have a serious case of the Sunday blues (as I frequently do!). And thats ok. Its really really ok. 

Life has a cycle to it and often our ideas and ideals don't quite line up to the cycles of the world, we just need to be prepared and to create the lives we want so that our natural cycles can align with the cycles of the world as well. 

I had a really really bad day today. And a really really good day. 

I had two panic attacks, yep two. And you know what? They were both completely 100% avoidable! (disclosure, I've had panic attacks and been diagnosed with a panic disorder for about 15 years now... and been through tons of therapy and different medications to deal with them - so when I say they are avoidable I feel they are situation induced, situations I know better than to put myself into)

 They both stemmed from my eternal and internal self doubt. I like many others suffer from never feeling like enough. My house wasn't clean enough, big enough or designed to perfection, I wasn't skinny enough, my make up wasn't right and I had no cute outfits. (sounding familiar yet?) 

And you know what? They were both completely unfounded. I know that doesn't help in the moment but I am hoping to use in as a learning tool for myself in the future. 

My house was fine, I had a cute outfit (and ended up not shooting with the photographer anyway) - but you know what I ended up doing? 

Having a most fabulous evening with my husband dining on Italian food al fresco! We even stopped for cold pressed juices to start our week off on a good foot. 

I hope that these kind of blogs reach the people they should and that you all know we are in this together. Keep your chins up badasses, you are all fighting your own amazing battles and I am so proud of all of you. 

Dont be afraid of Monday, I'm here with you. 

 

Cheers! 

XOXO | SLL 

Casual Valentines Day Looks & Day Dates!

I always like the idea of planning something lavish for Valentines Day, but then the reality of the day sinks in... its a weeknight, everywhere is crowded, flowers are 10times the price and you're kind of over it... well at least that's how it is in our house. Now don't get me wrong, my husband pulls out lavish romantic gestures on the regular. But Valentine's Day just isnt our thing. 

1.jpg

This weekend we decided to take a little day date and have a nice relaxing lunch at one of our favorites and then wander around downtown Carlsbad. The date was rounded out with a super romantic time at the bar, the genius bar that is. My phone sadly decided it no longer wanted to play and therefore for Valentines Day I became the proud new owner of the iPhone 8+. (Hey at least its something gold right?!?) 

Anyway... Day dates are some of our favorites. They can be spontaneous or they can be planned out. They are awesome for when you're on a bit of a budget,  and I would imagine easier to ditch the kids. 

My top 5 Daytime Dates!

1. Outdoor brunch/lunch followed by a stroll around town. This is an awesome way to explore a new part or neighborhood in your city! 

2. Take a class together! Many local cooking stores (we love Sur La Table!) offer cooking classes, your local community college or community center should also have tons of options! 

3. Do a little DIY! Have a project at home you guys have been putting off? Crank your favorite tunes, open a bottle of wine and get that bathroom painted. Change your mindset and make it fun. 

4. Museums/Aquariums - we happen to live in a city full of beautiful options, if you dont, dont worry! A local art gallery or music store can easily do the trick! 

5. Take a drive and point out all the fun places you've been together. Even better? Let the passenger control the radio and make a playlist of your love story! 

2.jpg
We found the most amazing new donut shop on State Street in Carlsbad - called "The Goods" be sure to stop in and grab some if you're around. We took these home and had them for dessert after a dinner party! They even have vegan options on Wednesdays and Saturdays!

We found the most amazing new donut shop on State Street in Carlsbad - called "The Goods" be sure to stop in and grab some if you're around. We took these home and had them for dessert after a dinner party! They even have vegan options on Wednesdays and Saturdays!

Just because you're heading out during the day doesn't mean you cant dress the part! I've rounded up my favorite casual valentines day looks including this fun LOVE top I wore on Saturday!

A cute graphic t-shirt and some comfy jeans are the perfect combo for your casual and fun day! The best part? They're all under $20 & ship on prime so you'll have them in no time! 

Head on over to my Amazon List to shop my picks - let me know your favorites! Click HERE to shop! 

XOXO | SLL 

Through time with diligence...

So depending on how well you know me you may or may not know that I originally started Bubbles & Bones back in 2013. I had a good run at it for about 60 days and then my posting kinda tapered off... Recently on Facebook memories, I was reminded of a post I wrote inspired by my grandmother and great-grandmother. While that post screams of 25-year-old immaturity (I'm sorry for what I said about yoga pants), and is not at all the message I wanted to share,  I knew that I wanted to share with my new readers a little about them.

They were the ultimate icons of style and class. Their self-worth, perseverance, and confidence never came from another, it was an internal fire that I hope burns a little inside me as well. 

My grandmother and great-grandmother (and their husbands) lived life so fully that most people don't believe me when I share stories of them. Partying at the palace in Monaco, speed boats down the Riviera, movie stars and royalty as friends and more. But their lives weren't always like that. 

Before the speedboats and the Royals came extreme heartache and tragedy - as did many other global citizens of the time. World War II brought war to the small island that my family was living on (Java). My grandmother only knew her fathers face from a photograph until she was 3 years old, as he was detained at the male camp and my great-grandmother and grandmother at the female camp. They were held in concentration camps located in the remote jungle Boven-Digoel by the Japanese during WWII - as they lived in the Dutch East Indies running their printing empire at the time. They lost everything, including parents, siblings, businesses, homes and more. But again, they didn't let that stop them. The three of them rebuilt their lives and lived them to the fullest. 

Our family crest has the words "door tyd en vlyt" on it - which translates from Dutch to English as "Through time with diligence" (if you've seen me in a bikini you know that this is incorporated into one of my tattoos). They never let their situations define them and worked diligently for the rest of their lives, to live their best lives.  

Consistently pulled together and polished, they oozed style and class. My grandmother more of a rebellious spirit was one for furs and embellishments, yet rooted her style with the classics. Hermes, Chanel, custom couture made for her by her best friend, and famous Dutch designer Edgar Vos.

A young grandmother preparing for a day on the slopes (or more likely Après-ski!)

A young grandmother preparing for a day on the slopes (or more likely Après-ski!)

My great-grandmother, having lived through losing everything during the war (and getting it back again) was more conservative in her style and lifestyle. Most of the photographs I have of her are in elegant gowns or hosting a lavish party, not a hair, nail or button out of place. She was an incredible hostess and cook. She was made up at all times and it wasn't until she became physically unable to that her hair went uncolored or not styled in elaborate combs. 

My great-grandparents at a black tie gala. 

My great-grandparents at a black tie gala. 

My great-grandmother passed away when I was 5 years old, but thankfully I do have some memories of her. My grandmother was one of the most influential people in my life and unfortunately passed away way too soon. I was able to spend at least one day a week with her until her death when I was 15. Her loss is still felt deeply by my mom and myself. The photographs I have of both of them are some of my (and my moms) most prized possessions. Each photo of them is a complete story. A fairy tale of sorts. I find myself in awe of the lives they lived and often daydream filling in the gaps I don't know. 

One of my goals for 2018, and through life,  is to be more like them. To be consistent in my life, my style, my demeanor. To pass through life diligently and with purpose. 

XOXO | SLL 

Let’s talk about Botox baby!

Let’s talk about Botox baby

Let’s talk about you and me

Let’s talk about all the good things

And all the bad things that may be

Oh, that’s not how that song goes?  Oh well, you get the idea. Today’s post is all about Botox! I’ve wanted to share this post with you guys for quite some time and I always hesitated. I guess I think I had something to be ashamed or embarrassed about, but I don't!

Read More

Thanksgiving Planning!

Happy Thanksgiving everyone! Can you believe its just a few days away? I'm not hosting this year - but, I thought I would share with you a simple spreadsheet that has brought some sanity to my Thanksgivings of years past! 

 

Image via  Lonny Magazine

Image via Lonny Magazine

I created this simple spreadsheet a few years ago,  Its a calendar, a reminder system, a shopping list and sanity saver all in one! 

What I do first is get a final(ish) head count - it is much easier to plan when you know how many people you will be serving (shh... then I add like 4 more to make sure we have leftovers!).

When we host, I don't do a ton of the Thanksgiving cooking as my husband is a magnificent cook and cooks a killer turkey! So my job is generally logistics, taste tester and baker!

So...You can imagine how big of a deal it is when someone (oopsy) forgets to buy that one ingredient that makes the dish... never again with this list! 

Our next step, my husband and I decide on a menu for the day. I go through the recipes and pull out the ingredients necessary for each dish. I  then enter it into this spreadsheet with the quantity needed. 

Thanksgiving.jpg

Next step, I go through the kitchen and see what we have already in our pantry - if I have the ingredient I leave the line black and put an X in that collum. If I cant find it, the line goes to red (really helps when at the store).

While grocery shopping I then mark each thing off as I put it in the cart to make sure I don't miss anything (never again!!!). 

I also use this list to keep me organized while preparing, I like to include what "special" items I will need for setting the table so that I can start pulling those out and washing them if needed a few days before. Since we have a pretty small kitchen and just one oven its been really helpful to schedule oven time so that everything is done when we needed it to be! 

So there you have it! Hope everyone has a most wonderful holiday with their friends and families! Do you have any tips and tricks to make your Turkey day run smoother? 

Want a copy of this spreadsheet to get you started? Just sign up for the email list and leave a comment on this post and I will send you an excel file to get you started! 

 

XOXO | SLL 

Lets talk home screens!

I cant think of a more personal thing today then our cell phone home screens! I mean you carry it with you at all times, you're probably the only one that uses it, and you look at approximately 9 million times per day. Why not make your's something that brings you joy each time you look at it? 

 

Enter my personal home screen...

image1 (5).png

I get it... it's not for everyone. We all know there are two very very different types of cell phone users. Are you a right or a left kind of person? If you are more of the 989084577 notification variety, this probably isn't your style! 

Image via: https://digitalsynopsis.com/design/two-kinds-of-people-illustrations/

Image via: https://digitalsynopsis.com/design/two-kinds-of-people-illustrations/

My husband thinks I am crazy for doing this, but he is also the guy who has pizza delivery apps under "productivity" (I guess he's kind of right). But so many people who have seen my phone have squealed with delight!

I cannot take solo credit for this beauty, after first discovering color-coded folders thanks to The Home Edit - I quickly became completely obsessed! Now, it does take some getting used to I will 100% admit to that. However, I do find myself using my phone (I hope!) more efficiently. I use the search bar, I use Siri - and after a bit, you just know by instinct where everything is... 

If you're interested in doing this - set aside a good 30 minutes - I happened to do mine during a crazy bout of insomnia at about 2am. Start by sorting like by like, just group reds with reds, blues with blues etc.

Depending on the number of apps you have you can get really specific with your rainbow of folders. I decided to have multiple pages of each color in one folder, but I have seen some screens where people extend the whole screen of the phone with folders. Then just pick your favorite emojis and viola -a home screen full of eye candy! 

I kept my messages out since I am using them all day long - as well the phone (because thats what we're actually supposed to use these things for right?), email, safari and pandora for quick selection. 

I would love to know how everyone else organizes their phones - are you a notification clearer or are you 578764987 unread messages from 8th grade kind of person? 

Tell me in the comments below! 

XOXO | SLL